Transcript Includes the following: Exclusive Brethren news tracker & news archive. They see young single people often "going off the rails" after leaving the church. These sessions often involved alcohol. Despite the claim that Plymouth Brethren Christian Church is the historic name (http://www.plymouthbrethrenchristianchurch.org/) it is an entirely new invention. Photos come down from the wall and you disappear from Brethren lists, never to be spoken of again, except in hushed tones as a warning to others. He doesn't go to the same church as I do of course.". Who should be admitted to the breaking of bread ceremony? My kids don't know their grandparents as grandparents. Wikipeebia [Contra] An extensive website, with personal testimonies, historical documents, discussion forums, and more. [29] Of all Brethren institutions, Pastorlink is one of the newest: it is only in the last twenty to thirty years that the practice of having pastors has become common in Brethren assemblies in New Zealand. Members follow a rigid code of conduct based strictly on Bible teaching. There are two main motivations thought to be behind Brethren-backed political campaigns: promoting parties whose policies are closest to Brethren values (anti-gay rights, pro-traditional family, privatisation and decentralisation), thus delaying the "Rapture", when Jesus Christ is expected to descend and take away true believers; and, the more worldly theory of promoting parties with business-friendly policies to further Brethren's own business interests. Later, while working as a senior reporter for Stuff, I explored issues such as prisoner mistreatment, cannabis reform, and just where all the forks were going from our newsroom kitchen. Once David Tchappat had a taste of the real world as a teenager, there was no going back despite the fact he knew he would be cruelly ostracised from his family, friends and the only life he had known. This is quite different from mainstream Christian belief, which says that Jesus was always fully God and fully man. 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"Group buying is a common business practice, using the power of group buying to deliver improved pricing or other benefits (such as rebates). The scene of a crash in which three members of the Exclusive Brethren church died in Baylys Coast Rd, Northland in June in 2016. When Te Atatu Bible Chapel embraced the Charismatic movement in 1978,[15][16] it was not treated as the Te Papapa assembly had been almost fifteen years earlier. The medication left me lethargic and unhappy and I stopped taking it after a few weeks, although I had enough repeats on the prescription to last for a year. Members of Exclusive Brethren churches are expected to be totally loyal to the leader of the Exclusive Brethren. Rob McLean, who was excommunicated from the church over a decade ago, said for many older Brethren, the commercial control of the church was history repeating itself. The ex-churchmember said members of the Exclusive Brethren, also known as the Plymouth Brethren Christian Church, who found themselves in jail needed support more than ever. Most casual observers would say I've moved on. I left Hong Kong on October 31 last year, the 10-year anniversary of my final excommunication from the Exclusive Brethren. The leader is regarded as a person of inherent moral power, following in the tradition of the leaders of the past and upholding their teaching in such a way as to lift the membership out of the world of wickedness. There was no television, no radio, no access to modern technology, and we went to church every day. []. This cult-like control is unbiblical, and is one of the reasons why the movement has attracted negative publicity. They love alcohol. This was followed up by a visit by Darby himself later in 1875. I held my grandma close dear, sweet Grandma, who always kept a stiff upper lip, but not today and we wept in each other's arms for half an hour. Brethren have built 36 Campus & Co supermarkets in New Zealand for their members' exclusive use, staffed partly by "volunteers". I had no idea how to eat in restaurants, tune a radio dial, or engage in contemporary discussion about pop culture. The leader of the church has absolute power to appoint the priests, resolve breaches of the rules, approve marriages and decide on punishments. The ones that do, or buck against too many of the fellowship's numerous proscriptions, leave. "When you pull out one of those Jenga blocks it can make the whole pile quite unstable. This early conception of Christian fellowship, based on minimal organization, proved within the course of a decade and a half to be inadequate for the maintenance of an integrated separate community. The Brethren movement began in Dublin in the 1820s, and split into the Open and Exclusive Brethren in the 1840s. NAF then dishes out grants to PBCC trusts, which are not registered charities and therefore not subject to any scrutiny. I wish him well.". However, he baulked at paying hundreds of dollars a month to join UBT for "business advice" he did not have time to read or services he did not need. Apart from a three-year period (1880-1883) in Dunedin, Forlong based himself in the Whanganui/Manawatu region. On one occasion a senior leader asked if I was sexually attracted to a local priest. Last July, lawyers and private investigators arrived at his Mngere Bridge home before dawn to carry out a private search warrant of the house and all devices. However, many leading New Zealand companies are lining up to join the list of preferred suppliers to what former members describe as a captive market. Wellington man Rob McLean, who was excommunicated from the church over a decade ago and forced to relinquish his business, said for many older Brethren, this was history repeating itself. Obviously I wasn't a good Brethren girl, but back then I'd never have dreamt of leaving." Like most ex-Brethren - they call themselves ex-peebs (short for people of the Exclusive Brethren) - the hardest thing has been losing family from their lives. Now 53, he's in his second marriage and runs a cartage business in his hometown, Christchurch. According to Statistics New Zealand there were 20,406 Brethren in New Zealand in 2001. doctrine) to which they subscribed. Imagine a life without television, music or freedom; imagine every minute of your spare time being spent attending church; imagine growing up believing swimming pools, cinemas and dancing were evil. Wellington man Peter Hart, who was excommunicated two years ago, said he was happy to give to the charity and often gave more than was "suggested". Profits from UBT are funnelled as donations into the National Assistance Fund (NAF), which then sends the receipts back to UBT to cut the tax. I think they expected we'd go back and were surprised when we didn't. Exclusive Brethren meeting halls exclude the world to the extent of having no windows. New rules came thick and fast from the 1960s, when the world leader of the time James Taylor Jnr, an alcoholic businessman from Brooklyn, New York enforced the principle of "separation". When a member falls out of line, or is perceived to fall out of line, the first step in the process is for that person to be 'shut up'. Until then my transgressions had been minor offences that could be excused away; forgiven, with a warning not to repeat my mistakes. The axe had fallen, and the Brethren had "withdrawn" from me. The Green Party's demanding the group loses its exemption from labour laws requiring union access to work sites, since the cosying up to political parties makes a mockery of the basis for that exemption - finding association with any outside organisation unconscionable. The companies themselves were also interconnected through supply chains and personal relationships, controlled by the church's supreme leader Bruce Hales, who took a close personal interest in their performance, he said. It was one of the worst cases of neglect to come before a racing authority. I'd sit with one or two of these so-called priests, and launch into a tearful drunken confession as they plied me with whisky. People are talking about not mentioning alcohol. An estimated 5000 of those are Exclusive, with 40,000 worldwide. The man, who has name suppression, was being considered for parolelast week. Latest items: Subscribe to RSS headline updates from: Powered by FeedBurner, Abusive Churches/Spiritual Abuse Cult FAQ. The Exclusive Brethren are a religious group who forbids their members from voting but are taking out ads in the Tasmanian newspapers telling non believers how to vote. In early days, the group was less restrictive; the founders simply shunned the trappings of modern religion and committed themselves to a life following biblical teachings. Here is how the money-go-round works: large New Zealand retail businesses get guaranteed customers (the Brethren who are directed to purchase their goods and services) in return for rebates, which go to UBT. My gaze rested on them for a few seconds before I looked away. [10] The result was a schism not only between different assemblies, but also within many of them. I knew I, too, was gay but unlike this couple, so happy and carefree, I was determined to keep it a secret. Our social lives were bound up with other sect members and, by the time I reached my teens, my peers and I were well and truly enmeshed. Though their businesses bring them into daily contact with non-Brethrens, Brethren rules forbid socialising with "worldly" outsiders. The worldwide leader of the Exclusive Brethren, having ruled since his father John Hales died in January 2002, he had a penchant for good food and an even greater penchant for good whisky. Non-members are called worldlies. While we don't have fellowship and eat with them, we still appreciate they're genuine people." After the UK Charity Commissions refusal to grant Charity Status to the Exclusive Brethren, in the summer of 2012, an observer provided a series of explanatory comments regarding that decision: 2.10 Misleading information: whilst it is of course legitimate to change a name and reconstruct a website, it should not be done in such a way as to make it appear that it involves an entirely different organisation. Forced against his will to take sides, Deck remained with the Exclusives, but his family was divided. "Bible Churches" tend to embrace many progressive trends, but generally retain a male-only leadership and continue to disassociate themselves from the Charismatic movement. Sarah said she thought my story was worth telling. New Zealand's Exclusive Brethren, who number fewer than 2000, operate about 800 small businesses, according to a political pamphlet they released in 2002. Brethren leaders throughout New Zealand unanimously rejected the Charismatic movement in 1964, and decided that the assembly at Te Papapa, Mangere, which had endorsed the view that all spiritual gifts were operating today, would no longer be "recognized" as a Brethren assembly. If they do not, they are banned from worship or are isolated from family and only allowed to see particular church members until the ordained priests decide that God has forgiven the "sinner". Video first published in 2015. He also allowed the New Zealand assemblies a degree of congregational autonomy that was unknown among the Exclusives in the British Isles. I drove around Invercargill one heartbreaking afternoon visiting friends, relatives, anyone I cared about, telling them I was leaving the Brethren and this would be the last time we saw each other. "It's beentraumatising but from my perspective and my family'swe've been very free in a Christian spirit to forgive Russell. Although some run computer businesses, the technology is frowned upon for private use because it has the power to employ the satanic number 666. Non-members are called 'worldlies'. When his son, John Field Deck returned to England in 1859 to study Medicine, however, and gravitated towards the Open Brethren,[7] Exclusive leaders, including Darby, became concerned. It was one of those scorching Australian summer days where the tempo slows, as though the very effort of moving is too much. What later became the GPH Society Limited originated in May 1900 when Edward Whitehead opened the Bible and Tract Depot at Palmerston North,[27] with the purpose of publishing Christian literature to serve primarily the Brethren movement in New Zealand, but also the wider Christian community in both New Zealand and Australia. Some Brethren sources claim this number to be an underestimate, with internal surveys indicating as many as 38,000 adults and children attending Brethren assemblies almost one percent of New Zealand's population. Afterthe case had concluded, it's understood Stewart was ostracised by members of the church. Peebs.Net is a website that endeavors to investigate and report the Truth behind the Exclusive Brethren, a group of so-called Christians, and by so doing, help break the chains and break down the barriers that prevent us from seeing our families, friends and loved ones, trapped in what many are calling a bona fide Cult. "They tend to spend their lives trying to get around rules while trying to keep their noses clean." It has two parts: Members of the Exclusive Brethren do not make friends, or even eat with people outside their church. They told us that non-members were being controlled by Satan via. We went to work in businesses owned by Brethren; we socialised with Brethren; saw them at church every night, and enjoyed the benefits of a life fully provided. He appoints local priests, resolves disputes, approves all marriages and decides on levels of punishment for breaches of discipline. Yet the Brethren experience hovers in my periphery; a mesh of traumatic memories. I was free, but it had come at a terrible cost. He is Australian Bruce Hales. A sermon made by Halessoon after the June 2016 crash, and leaked to Stuff, shows the church's views onimprisonment. Photo: RNZ. Members who do something against the Exclusive code are required to confess their sin during church meetings and demonstrate their repentance. Brethren women are distinguished by their white or blue headscarves and long hair -- which must never be cut. All members must follow the rigid code of behaviour and rules that govern the contact. nd to my brethren in the various connections resulting from the 1959 and 1970 crises, who seek to walk in the light and in truth. A broker with the insurance company, Crombie Lockwood, said he was instructed to use a special code with Brethren clients, discounting his commission by 20 percent, which went to the listed "sub-agency", UBT (Universal Business Team) a church-controlled company. 30, 2006. The early Brethren believed that, by separating from what they regarded as the unwarranted and unlegitimated system that was represented by the organization of churches, they possessed an adequate basis for the unity of all properly motivated Christians. They say people stay in fellowship because of ignorance, fear, family and finances. NZ POLICE Russell Stewart,. The Exclusive Brethren are a subset of the Christian evangelical movement generally described as the Plymouth Brethren. The BBC website listed the following rules for Exclusive Brethren: they cannot go to university, have televisions or radios, visit cinemas or the theatre, read newspapers or fiction, use computers, own mobile phones, vote in elections, serve in the armed forces or join any group that includes people outside the Brethren. However, then global leader (Jim Taylor) condemned "commerce in the assembly" and excommunicated the Hales brothers and those involved had to "publicly repent". They were a picture of languid happiness, sitting there in the sun. It's led to some amazing experiences, and a few hair-raising ones to boot. Most members are so isolated within the sect that they cant even imagine a life on the outside. You'll find most of them are really happy in their role." One of your four brothers gets married, but of course you're not invited to the wedding. The awful, incomprehensible reality of being true to yourself is that sometimes it means hurting those you love most dearly. As a young child the chorus mystified me. The Exclusive Brethren are an evangelical protestant Christian church related to the Christian or Open Brethren, according to the BBC website on world religion and ethics. Says Diana: "To this day my parents are heartbroken, because they can't have anything to do with us. They keep themselves apart because they believe that "it is impossible for God to fully bless and use his children who are in compromise or complicity with evil". Three-day religious conventions were a teen dating ground (that's where Diana, who grew up in Palmerston North, met Cambridge local Adrian). The Exclusives rebranded themselves worldwide as the Plymouth Brethren Christian Church in 2012 as part of a campaign to retain charitable status in the UK. "We are accused of being secretive; it's more that we want to keep our heads down and live according to our convictions. Ensconced in the narrow world of the Exclusive Brethren, Craig realised he was gay and his only options were to live a lie or break free. Minding their business * Fewer than 2000 Exclusive Brethren New Zealanders He has been a friend of mine. Exclusive Brethren Rules, with documentation This is a list of rules ("directives") made by James Taylor Junior for his followers, known as the Taylorite Branch of the Exclusive Brethren. An anguished wail from an aunt still rings in my ears. So many, many tears, streaming over blackboards and permanent ink. Faced with being separated once more, we broke down and cried on each other's shoulders, and I realised how much I still loved my brother. He says, "We think women have a major role: to be a Godly influence on their husbands and families. Brethren run at least 12 firms in. I squirmed with embarrassment watching his fresh inexperience, realising how I myself must have seemed equally wet behind the ears. (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); The Exclusive Brethren movement is an extremist branch or sect of the Plymouth Brethren. It's the same in 40 towns around the country, from Gisborne to Cust. Another ex-member, whom RNZ has agreed not to name, said he managed to hold onto his position in the family business, despite huge pressure from church leaders - but said many others were not so fortunate. Members marry other members. According to the Evangelical publication, Operation World, there are 202 Brethren congregations in New Zealand[2] with 16,164 in regular attendance (including children). Charlotte wrote a letter of recommendation for AUT's Bachelor of Communications degree, and I started working at TV3 as a first-year student. There has been much speculation as to why the website disappeared. The Exclusive Brethren is the name given (by outsiders) to those among the so-called Plymouth Brethren who, in the mid-nineteenth century, joined John Nelson Darby ( 1800-82) in forming a Christian fellowship which they believed to be based on strict biblical principles. Yesterday RNZ revealed the unusual structure of this charity, which is wholly controlled by the Plymouth Brethren Christian Church but with no formal constitutional link to it. Like many other movements that came to be regarded as sectarian, the Brethren began with a profound and deeply anti-sectarian sentiment, and they still reject the designation sect. The broker, whom RNZ has agreed not to name, said while they were not doing anything illegal, he was uncomfortable with the way in which the church treated former members in particular. She would often sing us to sleep, and one of the songs she strummed was Hank Thompson's 1956 country ballad The Blackboard of My Heart. This is ironic, because among the activities forbidden for members of the movement are such things as watching television, listening to the radio, reading newspapers and using computers and the internet. (The terms "conservative" and "progressive" are often informally used to describe the emphasis, or lack of emphasis, that Brethren assemblies and individuals put on matters of doctrine, worship, and church order which distinguish them from other Evangelical Christians). The girls were fiercely competitive about their scarves. "Even housewives had to fill out diaries accounting for what they had done every hour and spent," McLean said. Pro/Contra My Brethren (Pro and Contra) History and Ministry of the Exclusive Brethren (so-called). Perhaps if I came clean, I reasoned, the scales would fall away and I'd reach a new level of spiritual enlightenment. Members control a network of secret trusts, their 8000 members earn. This week the New Zealand Presbyterian Church voted to ban anyone in a sexual relationship outside marriage from its leadership roles (though 35 per cent voted against the ban). This final stage of excommunication is when the sect gives up all hope of recovery and washes its hands of you. Two months ago that name did not exist. This week, former teachers at Brethren-run schools claimed the schools heavily censored reading material, ripping out chapters on reproduction from science texts, and dictated every aspect of the children's lives. They observe "separation from evil", which according to the official Exclusive Brethren website also compels them to "shun the conduits of evil communications: television, the radio and the internet" (newspapers are OK). Now in their early 40s with four children and a playground business, the couple had been married four years and already had two children when they left. I began talking to outsiders for help and advice. This Sydney-based "global consultancy group" claims to provide "services and advice" to about 3000 Brethren-owned businesses in 19 countries, with a combined revenue of more than $12.6 billion NZD. My parents threw me out of their house, waiting until I was away one weekend before dumping my belongings in a storage unit and telling me I could collect the key. that we might humble ourselves before the Lord for our part active or passive in the shameful happenings and sorrow-ful scatterings which have taken place in our times. Photo: Supplied. Remembers Adrian: "Once you were out, you started to question it." Pastorlink was established by and for Brethren pastors. It remains the most painful experience of his life. Users of UBT's internet security product ("often a Mum or Dad") were able to customise its filters, he said. reach out to my brethren who have been damaged, disillusioned or discarded by the legal system which first emerged in 1959, and continues to dominate many to this day, to recall them to their spiritual birthright the rich heritage of former years; to encourage them to take possession of it . A shell company of that name has already been set up here, reportedly to help the church hire its own without relying on "worldly people" Life in the Exclusive Brethren could be happy enough if you stuck to the rules, Craig says. It was a surreal transition. Unity is based on truth not on a presumed total separationfrom what they havebeen inbued with as evil when in fact the Church is composed of wheat and tares and only the LORD KNOWS THOSE WHO ARE HIS-ONLY HE. With no TV or stereo, most kids learnt to play instruments and played together. He's organising a reunion for "ex-peebs" next Easter, and is expecting 150. Those who break the rules can be punished by being banned from worship meetings and ostracised by members of their own family and other Exclusives who withdraw from such a person. Craig didn't want to the leave the sect, but felt it was inevitable. Baby Craig, left, with his cousin and their grandmother. * Around 800 mainly small private businesses By the time I was born, in the late autumn of 1989, the Exclusive Brethren had morphed into an oppressive sect that tightly managed every aspect of its members' lives. We're just simple Christians, normal people, we look after our own and go about our business, don't hurt anyone." 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