Journals YP, the YP logo and all other YP marks contained herein are trademarks of YP LLC and/or YP affiliated companies. @nuritanderson Dear Nurit, Thank you so much for your comment and understanding my anger. Ravisloe and Lake Shore in the Chicago burbs were very much Jewish clubs back in the day. I assume you were around middle-school age; its hard enough to come up with an immediate, clever and pointed response to similar comments as an adult. Many that self-servingly believe they have no discriminatory inclinations are so insensitive they dont even notice the slights that they inadvertently hurl at friends and acquaintances. It was in the Knollwood grill room that, according to local lore, Jones met with club member Clifford Roberts and discussed the creation of the Masters Tournament at Augusta National. Francis Ouimet, winner of the milestone US Open of 1913, played at Knollwood, as did the legendary Bobby Jones, who at one time held the course record with a round of 68. You write that you were in your 60s when this happened to you and that you had a whole lifetime of experience responding to such remarks. Type Private. A state-of-the-art year round practice facility opened in 2015. Private. With a completely renovated clubhouse; new locker rooms and dining rooms, and an 18-hole course overlooking the rolling hills of North Salem, this club grows in popularity every year. The Jewish clubs listed are the mollowing: Beach Point, Broadmoor Country, Centertown, Century Country, City Athletic, Columbia Club of New York, I was in my late sixties at the time and had a lifetime of protesting prejudice behind me. I agree with Saras comment above, in middle school it is tough to respond to a situation like that, even as an adult it could be. Market Watch: Relive The Gatsby Age In This Historic And Storied Manor. 1 Wasylenko Lane, Yonkers Not just architectural history, but more importantly, to study why ill-conceived changes got made and how to recognize that failed process and learn from it. Westchester Hills also features practice facilities including a driving range and two large greens to fine-tune your short game. According to Sports and Its awful to know that people we went to school with harbored such prejudice whether born out of ignorance or malevolence. From my limited understanding, Sunningdale in N.Y. is worthy of study on many levels. Sometimes you made me laugh but I also felt your pain and disappointment. There were pioneering clubs throughout Westchester. Conformity was boring, and I never wanted boring. "It's unbelievable how much you don't know about the game you've been playing your whole life." 914.231.3461 Knollwood was a nationally known tournament site in the early days of the game. It is a fine course that underent a renovation by Arthur Hills a few years ago. 914.231.3481 914.241.0700 Really powerful and moving account of how were made to compromise who we are to fit in to a world we never really want to be a part of. Two clubs, Mount Kisco Country Club and Willow Ridge Country Club, exemplify the way golf clubs have evolved in changing economic and social conditions. The 1920s is also when most of Westchester Countys public courses were built. YP - The Real Yellow PagesSM - helps you find the right local businesses to meet your specific needs. Our ancestry & family guide us into who we become in time as we grow. It not only has an interesting version of the Biarritz but also holes such as a Capestein, Alpsberg, Redanowitz and the Schmear. These factors are similar to those you might use to determine which business to select from a local Yellow Pages directory, including proximity to where you are searching, expertise in the specific services or products you need, and comprehensive business information to help evaluate a business's suitability for you. A stark, indelible reminder of what we lost, what we had left, and all our hopes for the future. It even had me guessing at the classmate who so wounded you. What are people saying about country clubs in Westchester County, NY? (I kept wondering who the friend was.) 18 Bloomer Road, North Salem Not sure if they have opened up over the years. Im ashamed of myself and my inaction. For one, the Jewish clubs put great stress on charity; a prospective member is expected to be philanthropic (one club in the New York area requires that an applicant must have given at least $10,000 to United Jewish Appeal). 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The modern terms microaggression and macroaggression are completely inadequate when framed against the backdrop of the worlds most horrific offense. I think those moments that we are silent, or silenced, haunt us as much, if not more than those times we regret our words. Salems10thhole (above) and6thhole (below). The men might Westchesters claim to being the birthplace of American golf is based on much more than being home to Saint Andrews, the oldest golf club in America. many thoughts and memories from youth to adulthood. Im very glad I was able to release this story into the world and reading all these comments I see its impact and for that I am grateful. The simulator also features a multi-sport function offering a variety of sports such as soccer, baseball, hockey and more to indulge interest for all. I have a good memory, but I seem to have blocked this out. And I want to understand my emotions all of them especially why, after more than three and a half decades, I still have this smoldering anger at what happened and my response to what happened (or should I say my unfortunate, frustrating, and maddening lack of response) when I went to see Superman at the country club in the mid-1980s. The organization was founded in 1916a time when professional golfers lacked the social status of the amateur players of the day. Read the latest issue of Westchester magazine for FREE! Private. I will go back and sign in to comment there as well. White came there in 1916 and served as head pro from 1922 to 1927. @Regina Your comment juxtaposing childhood innocence when it is met by ignorant comments really hits home. There are probably scores of predominantly Jewish clubs in South Florida-with almost all of them being on flat, uninteresting terrain. By 1892, the jolly crew had moved four blocks north on Palisades Avenue to an orchard where they laid out a new course with an apple tree next to the first tee. It is, at once, deeply personal and universal in nature. This candid essay resonates with me, evoking (provoking?) Macdonalds loss prompted him to denounce the championship because it wasnt run by a national organization, so later that year, Saint Andrews secretary and founding member Henry Tallmadge invited representatives of four other leading clubs, the Chicago Golf Club, Shinnecock Hills Golf Club, Newport (Rhode Island) Golf Club, and the Country Club of Brookline, Massachusetts, to dinner at the Calumet Club in New York City. @Billy Cohen I am very touched by the tender and thoughtful nature of your comment. Quaker Ridge hosted the Walker Cup and Century and Old Oaks are regular sites for US Open qualifying. Many thanks to the writers who have shared their work with us and have helped create a supportive online community for Jewish writers. At the Country Club with Superman. Greenwich Country Club states they are your home away from home and that's exactly the vibe you get. The fifth county course, Dunwoodie Golf Course, is actually the oldest, having been established in 1906 as a private club that claimed Mary Pickford and Douglas Fairbanks Jr. as members. Private. I went to public school in 9th grademy first encounter with non-jewish kids. For generations, the Jewish country club was a place you could bring your family for the day and feel comfortable in that cocoon for hours on end. I do think that (especially girls, shy girls) react by not reacting. Rees' vision was to liven our classic & historic golf course while upgrading playability & the overall golf experience. Your friend was Irish Catholic? Had she heard or been taught that Jews killed Christ? Hogan won the Westchester Open in 1940. Box 229 Purchase, NY 10577 At home we werent religious. Just as we were about to enter. History of Winged Foot Golf Club, Mamaroneck. You were eager for an experience that you would treasure. I have always been immensely proud of this, and I feel the sweep of history as I am one part in an unbroken chain going back millennia. Members at the time included steel mogul and philanthropist Andrew Carnegie and architect and bon vivant Stanford White. Westchester Hills Golf Club dates all the way back to 1913 when it was designed by the first Head Pro, Peter Clark. My daughter asked for latkes and Chanukah candles. Tillinghast course has some of the most pronounced elevation changes in Westchester golf. WebGuest Information. Growing up for me was different than for you. Copyright 2022 Westchester Jewish Council. It wasnt as though she had given me her edict weeks before so I would have the chance to respond and, hopefully, decide that even Superman wasnt worth compromising my integrity and my sense of self. More silence. The Bedford Tennis Club added golf in 1896; Scarsdale Golf Club opened in 1898; Waccabuc Country Club in 1912; and Blind Brook, where President Dwight Eisenhower was a member, was built in 1915. 914.328.5047 Too often those in under represented groups stay silent so as to not draw more negative attention to themselves, and it eats away at our souls and humanity. The sheer fact that this experience lives so vivid today in the authors memory, gives me an unwavering assurance of the change shes making to improve our world today! Thank you so much for sharing and making us all more thoughtful about how we can handle those experiences differently in the moment. Learn More. Thank you for sharing this wonderful essay, Jessica. because while I was surrounded by plenty of Jewish people during childhood, it was not until years later that I realized being Jewish is such an intrinsic part of my identity. What was right? In 1926, another course was built to serve Lawrence Farms, a residential community. 568 Bedford Road, Armonk It was here that the first national amateur championship was played, not to mention the first national Open tournament that included professionals. Their membership is by invitation only. Specializing in golf tournaments, family celebrations, and business functions, Westchester Hills Golf Club is the perfect venue for any event. This was beautifully written. Please feel free to share any other writing with me. Hollywood is 83 in Best Classic. This piece brings the event full circle. I have also had a few similar experiences that I still berate myself over. (LogOut/ Quaker Ridge Golf Club in Scarsdale is perhaps the best golf course in Westchester to never host a modern major tournament, although it did stage the 1997 Walker Cup. There are always a few times in our young lives when we regret our decisions. They also offer a lighted driving range and practice greens. It wouldn't be summer without the organized swim team and many swim games each weekend. Private. I think their staying power helps us become who we are. Our kids are always watching and as parents we are modeling behaviors that our children will emulate. The event included lunch, a golf tournament, and a black tie dinner. Members can enjoy competitive golf tournaments, tennis, swimming, fitness, a full calendar of social events, casual and gourmet dining, and much more. I didnt like it at all, but I did learn some things. Let's just put it this way: take a look at the photos and keep inmore, Tamarack is a exceptional country club in Greenwich, CT. Me: Karl Marx wrote about country clubs? Jewish neighborhoods. Its practically part of our DNA. Private. The club stumbled financially, however, and the county bought it in 1955, made substantial improvements, and opened it to the public in 1957. Moral of the story: Always act as bravely and courageously as Queen Esther. John Reid was elected the clubs first president. Often, I am silent in order not to create waves. At Westchester Hills, our members value a year-round experience. Bringing readers all the richness and complexity of Jewish life in America through carefully researched, thoroughly accessible articles, American Jewish History (AJH) is the most widely recognized journal in its field. Dad: GROUCHO!!!. Clearly this incident helped to clarify and solidify things in this authors mind. Why do we have to put up with any? She and I werent really that close. The great irony of all of it is that the only thing I remember from this event is that I stayed silent. The Rosenbergs. When will we ever learn? 18-hole Golf course; Tennis Courts (clay courts in the winter bubble) Paddle Tennis Courts; Squash Courts; Pool; Dining (2 restaurants) Bowling Alley; Trap Shooting; Gym; Youth summer camps/programs for children ages 5-13 years old; Does Greenwich Country Club offer trial memberships? 914.995.9200 Unfortunately, the story feels close to the heart and not uncommon. Your blood is Jewish and now every fiber, thought, dream and breath is one. I have played with some great guys from both of these clubs over the years. 914.949.4840 Sometimes you can find a way to express it, later, sometimes the people, places, events are gone forever. Hope, where it remains today. The New York Athletic Club, frequently in the news for its tight bars against Jews and Negroes, proved to be the most difficult club from which to get information. In 1953 our membership decided to add a swimming pool to our list of amenities offered. Sorry it took pain to birth this in you but that is how becoming one is birthed. Dick Wilson did part of it and I believe it was Joe Finger who did the other, but I'm working from a weak memory. This was not an Orthodox enclave but a secular community in suburban Philadelphia where many Jews had settled. I grew up in a similar environment in similar circumstances. A golf club.more, The Round Hill Club is a wonderful property, club steeped in old world charm. Still, we can piece together some general impressions. Our new pool facility features a Junior Olympic heated pool, kiddie pool area, luxury chaise lounges & day beds, along with our Pool Grill that provides some delicious poolside offerings. Box 249 Scarsdale, NY 10583. The Jewish Writing Project is now ranked as one of the "Top 50 Jewish Blogs" on the web. I cant wait to read what Jessica does next. I was between the ages of 16 and not more than 18. Im not a person who particularly minds feeling angry. (212) 923-2813. Together, they formed the United States Golf Association and named Tallmadge its first secretary. It was a private nine-hole course that the county expanded to 18 holes and opened in 1927. It was really different time. Our golf course renovation & re-design, by world renowned course architect Rees Jones, was debuted to our membership in Spring 2022. I just didnt think about it. 914.669.5485 WebDiscrimination aside, Jewish country clubs generally differ from their Christian counterparts in a couple of ways. Age, hopefully, does bring wisdom and I will never be a bystander in the erasure of my essence as a proud Jewish woman. In 2000 our membership decided it was necessary to built a kids area and kids pool at the club. Amused passersby soon started referring to them as the apple tree gang.. 914.967.6000 I felt something twist in my gut. Private. Your poignant and well-written essay references the prejudices that I think most, if not all, Jews have encountered in one way or other. Jessica. Host of five U.S. It all began when John Reid, a Scottish-born businessman in Yonkers, gathered some friends at a cow pasture on Lake Avenue on a warm February day. I mean Im a Jew. Private. 975 Anderson Hill Road, Rye Brook Surprisingly, I fit right in. I really enjoyed your piece. The course plays long and tough but includes some of the most picturesque holes in the county. Donald Ross designed the 18-hole course that saw Long Jim Barnes win the first PGA Championship in a final match over Jock Hutchinson in 1916. My parents didnt belong to a country club. I was to be an active participant in negating myself. Jessica provides a beautiful example of how subtle yet impactful hate can be. I mentioned it to my Dad who simply replied with a shrug Thats the Irish for ya! (unkowingly teaching me that two can play at that game). Web925 Westchester Avenue, Suite 200, White Plains, NY 10604-3002 | (914) 328-7001 | info@wjcouncil.org. My grandparents in St. Louis had to belong to a Jewish country club; they were not welcome at a Christian country club. YP, the YP logo and all other YP marks contained herein are trademarks of YP LLC and/or YP affiliated companies. My children and family experienced antisemitism in school and in our town only 10 years ago. Dont act too Jewish.. It is very well written. Our experiences as children shape our values as adults. Public. Isnt it our shared story of encountering antisemitism directly or indirectly, of finding our voices in adulthood and being more well equipped to confront bigotry and hatred? I was simply confused and so was he. It reminds me of something that happened when I was about 11 years old. The club opened in 1918 and soon became the home of numerous luminaries of the time, including Louis Gimbel and Samuel Bloomingdale of department store fame, along with composer George Gershwin, who sported a 10 handicap. My parents werent only not Italian and Catholic. The Club began as a recreation facility associated with a nearby resort hotel called the Gedney Farm Hotel. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts. Western clubs in Omaha, Portland, Oregon, Los Angeles and San Mateo rounded out the list. I think we all have times like this, where we cant quite recall the outcome. It has touched me deeply. These were the same clubs that 50 years earlier had signs saying no dogs no Jews or so the talk went. For my birth family, the solution was to move to a community that was predominantly Jewish. This discussion group is best enjoyed using Google Chrome, Firefox or Safari. Processing and responding in the moment to such profound ignorance and fear is a challenge. Maybe so but I have to think that people so casually ignorant like the woman in your example and the one in mine will never be attuned enough to recognize their ignorance tossed out in a familiar comfortable way as if the remarks were not laden with cruelty couched in a casual offhanded barb. Your friend, well, she will have her own memory from that day seeing Superman but she will never possess the feeling, that you so beautifully own, of what being Jewish means to you. Im so shocked this type of thing happened to you as well although I suppose I shouldnt be. I know so many people, as well as myself, that felt her pain and related to that pivotal moment of being discriminated against and yet, not finding the words to speak out. And Im certain I speak for numerous others. It has various golf courses and, From Business: Find ACDelco auto parts for your vehicle at Country Club Services in Yonkers, NY. This classic A.W. I didnt know how to respond. The Club decided to build a new fireproof clubhouse with an internal sprinkler system. And what did she mean anyway? My mother used to sunbathe topless on the back patio of our ten-acre home way out on a country road. Noted architect Frank Moore created a new Northern Italian-style structure which opened on April 15, 1926. No use in being harsh on oneself in these moments. Im not a person who particularly minds feeling angry. 99 Biiltmore Avenue, Rye I was too young and ignorant to be mad, or sad, or hurt. Rockrimmon by RTJ in Stamford, CT on the Pound Ridge, NY border and Preakness Hills in NJ are historically Jewish but I believe they have opened up over the years like many of those mentioned before. The club offers catering services for weddings, golf outings, bat mitzvah and, From Business: Alpine Country Club, located in Demarest, N.J., offers a variety of recreational facilities and services throughout the state. I reconnected with extended family, attending and planning huge family seders. Macdonald was elected vice president and walked away happy. The first was Mohansic Golf Course in Yorktown, which opened in 1925 on land deeded to the county by New York State. Web925 Westchester Avenue, Suite 200, White Plains, NY 10604-3002 | (914) 328-7001 | info@wjcouncil.org. Very well written and thank you for sharing. 914.478.3500 I often read your posts and find comfort that even though antisemitism is very prevalent today, the adults in the room are trying to stop the hateful rhetoric and educate those who have tainted and dangerous views. Great Essay. Ah it was a different time. You now understand from your own experience, who you are on a much deeper level. Nothing is so permanent as change, as someone once said, and that certainly applies to golf in Westchester. Unlike me, she craved approbation whereas I rather rejoiced in the opposite. Every Seder, as I watched my grandmothers treasured cousin ladle out the matzoh balls for the chicken soup, I saw the numbers on her arm. Friends of the Paterno Trivium. A friend asking us to be someone else is not a true friend. The 75-room mansion includes a ballroom, library, formal dining room, and 18 guest rooms, as well as the golf pro shop and locker rooms. Jessica drew me in at the first sentence and kept me holding my breath until the last word. Old Oaks in Westchester - I play there once or twice a year - great old course that may be helped by this weekends impending hurricaine..the course could lose about 1,000 trees easily ..classic example of the greens committee planting trees in any and every open spot..to the point where the fairways remain moist due to lack of sunlight. 777 Albany Post Road, Briarcliff Manor We werent elite, even though my parents were elated as they moved us out of the Amalgamated Workmens Circle housing in the Bronx to the cushy azalea filled suburbs of Westchester. I was so moved after reading Jessicas essay It really hit home for me. Each week one boy was chosen to recite Kaddish in Hebrew and one girl would recited in English. You did, indeed, wonder why this friend invited you to go with her to the country club since you and she werent close. It would be a big mistake to not mention the course at Del Boca Vista, Phase 2, an original design of Morty Seinfeld and Cosmo Kramer. Public. The minutes of that historic meeting are preserved in the clubs archives, the Peter Landau Library, along with a fabulous collection of books, records, and artifacts including early golf clubs and balls. It has moved me to tell my own frustrating tale. The course is open year-round and also offers a practice green and a catering facility. J. C. Snead, nephew of Sam Snead and eight-time winner on the PGA Tour, was an assistant teaching pro at Century from 1964 to 1967. From Business: Founded in 1908, Pelham Country Club is a family-oriented facility in New York. 914.723.6000 It is important to feel like other people understand what youre going through as well. She was clearly unable to appreciate Siegal and Shusters story of Kal-El (Supermans original name, translated from Hebrew as The Voice of God) the outsider, who, despite all his powers on earth, grew up knowing he was different than everyone around him. It sits on a non-descript piece of land but has a great 17th and a tricky 18th. Dazzled at the opportunity, and thinking only of Superman with his wavy black hair and chiseled cheekbones, I was thrilled to be her guest. This is a painful memory, but I think you should forgive yourself for not speaking up and asking what your friend meant by telling you not to act too Jewish. You were young. Sleepy Hollow Country Club was founded in 1911 by some of the nations most prominent business leaders at the pinnacle of Americas Gilded Age. I hope our childrens generation have not had similar ones. I can relate to so many aspects of it! Its learned, children (and adults) do not naturally come up with that themselves. What a wonderful essay, looking back at childhood memories and decisions with an experienced perspective. But I failed here. As for the story, I do wish you would have told your friend no and then gone on to exaggerate your Jewishness as publicly as possible just so that she could have felt embarrassed and betrayed. Paul Runyon, aka Little Poison, won two PGA Championships while serving as head pro from 1931 to 1943. For a long time I didnt fully understand what had happened, and out of shame I kept it to myself. Here are some more photos. A great read! You cant form the thoughts. The golf course was designed by a legendarymore, this needs to be saidAbout a month ago, I was at the Brae Burn Country Club for a wedding and gotmore, This country club is awesome. Private Clubs. This informs me that in addition to being rightly sensitive to attacks however subtle we Jews are a thoughtful people who search for Truth and answers. The PGA of America, with 27,000 members today, has strong ties to several early clubs in Westchester. Private. Copyright 2023 Westchester Jewish Council. NYAC is in the city and not as hard to join. Even with my kids far from home, I light candles and celebrate/honor Jewish holidays and life with my friends. Who knows, maybe we could even talk to him! Or you lack the words, or the experience to answer back. Its particularly known for a spectacular man-made waterfall. 100 Route 202, Lincolndale The clubs history includes two notable caddies, Ed Sullivan and Gene Sarazen, who worked there together in the early 1900s. I was taken aback. Nothing. One of the things I tell my kids is that we are not defined by our mistakes but by how we move forward from them, how we fix them, how we make them right, how we do better next time. Confronting your own memory was at least as difficult as confronting a childhood friends betrayal. The members werent happy with the way their course compared to nearby Winged Foot, however, so they retained A. W. Tillinghast to create a new layout. Probably not. Thanks for sharing this memory. . I shouldve told her then and there the absurdity and ignorance of her demand. The story drew my interest from the start and kept it to the end. You learned . It was completed in 1893 at a cost of $850,000a huge sum for the timeand retains today the original character and features of the design by architect Stanford White of McKim, Mead & White. Phone: 914.967.6000. Tom Winton, official golf architect for the county Parks Commission, designed the four courses (along with Mount Kisco and several other area courses), although A. W. Tillinghast claimed to have been the original designer for Saxon Woods. And, in fact, the individual that prompted me to write this essay told me years later that she didnt understand what was wrong with the Unite the Right rally in Charlottesville, Virginia where Heather Heyer was murdered by neo-Nazis shouting Jews will not replace us. She proudly told me over the phone that she herself might have been at that rally and when I tried to explain to her, incredibly still giving her the benefit of the doubt, how wrong and evil those neo-Nazis were, she seemed to get it but as her subsequent social media posts demonstrate she hasnt learned a thing and has clutched tightly to her prejudices. WebSunningdale Country Club. I wish I would have read it fifty years ago. I didnt say a word. They were Bohemian and liberal. Well told. (LogOut/ Thank you for sharing this troubling experience. I attended a private summer camp. You were a guest. With supreme river views from the second-highest elevation in the county, Hudson National was the first club ever to host three Metropolitan Golf Association events in its first eight years. 914.834.0992 The club has hosted three Met Opens, including the 1936 edition when a young assistant club pro from Ridgewood Country Club in New Jersey named Byron Nelson beat the games top players to begin his legendary professional career. I like that you ended with Never Again because I believe everyone should be reminding themselves of that sentiment everyday. 914.698.8400 Phone: (914) 723-3200. The only course in Westchester designed by legendary Pete Dye, Pound Ridge features a distinctive layout lined with rock walls, nature preserves, and glorious vistas. I love personal pieces like this and the way she conveyed her feelings brought it all together and gave it life ..